I may not like her family and their politics and this makes me wish she had done something to further the cause while she was in spotlight, but credit where credit is due, she nailed this one:
The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence. For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend, we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful some not. Still we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only “I’m sorry for your loss.”
But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent ephemeral shadows over their lives.
-from Spoken from the Heart by Laura Bush