Sunday, November 11, 2012

And Then There Were None (UPDATED)

The clinic called on Day6 to let us know that none of the remaining six embryos made it to blastocyst. As such they are not viable and will be discarded. I knew the quality wasn't great, but it was a severe shock to realize they are all gone. I spent the day crying on and off. I know they transferred the two best on Day3, but I now have serious doubts about their chances.

Prof said that as disappointing and worrying as it is, at least this is a clear end. If this cycle works, it works. If it doesn't, we are done. We don't even have to worry about whether or not to do an FET. He is right on that score, but that doesn't make it hurt any less today.

UPDATED: For the record, there is not really a concern with the donor's egg quality. She was a proven donor with a highly successful previous record. We do not have any idea what went wrong.

13 comments:

  1. Oh I am so sorry....I know what Prof said is true, but you're right, it doesn't stop the hurting now....I hope those 2 they transferred are settling in nicely...Thinking of you!

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  2. Oh S, I'm so so sorry. How devastating! I so hope the embies you transferred will surprise you. Abiding with you during this impossibly difficult time.

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  3. I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and extra vibes being sent to you for this cycle!

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  4. Oh crap.... I'm so sorry. I will re-double my positive thoughts I am sending to your two contenders. Hang in there!

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  5. Well that bites. I'm guessing the egg donor doesn't have the best quality eggs. Horrible way to find out too.

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  6. f*ck. This sucks. I'm sorry, Slackie. Holding onto hope for the two embryos that were transferred

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  7. Ugh! Keep your hope up for your embies! As my embryologist pointed out, it is all about the quality. If those were your best two, then you've got a great shot still!

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  8. I'm sorry, Slackie. That sucks and I wish it weren't so hard. I am sending warm, snuggly, stay-put-and-grow thoughts to the two embies you're currently tending.

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  9. Oh, wow. This sucks and I am so sorry. Thinking about the two embies snuggling in. Good luck!!

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  10. I know now isn't the time to cheer you up, but just wanted to let you know that the exact same happened with my DE-IVF cycle in June. (and one of the transferred ones is still surviving 26 weeks later)
    Hoping for your two little ones.

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  11. I'm so sorry, sweetie. Crossing my fingers that the two embies transferred snuggle in tight!!!

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  12. Huh. I'm so incredibly sorry. I'm continuing to hope that your two best were deemed the best for a reason. Lots of love to you & Prof.

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  13. I am so sorry sweetie!! Just know my LO was one of 8 embryos... the other ones didn't make it either... FX the ones transferred are your warriors!!! XOXO

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