Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Step One: Remove Cat From Bag

We did it.

We've now told our parents about our infertility, our diagnosis and our treatments. We've told them about our decision to pursue a donor egg cycle. They were unanimous in their excitement and support of the choices we have made.

And exhale.

My Mom's initial response was "Well you know, I had to take fertility pills to get you!" Uhhhh... I have no memory of this, though she insists she told me years ago. I was born when she was only 27. All I could think was... even if we had tossed the birth control in our twenties, we might still have been unable to conceive without assistance. I suddenly feel a lot less guilty for waiting.

Whoa.

10 comments:

  1. Wow. That is a shift in perspective from your mom. I'm so glad the conversations went well. I keep thinking back to when you overheard your dad defending you re: the people who told him that you owed them grandkids. I'm glad that hint of compassion we saw through your retelling of that story was backed up when you let the cat out of the bag. Congrats on a big step.

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  2. Wow! What news to get from your mom! How are you feeling about that? I can't imagine. I'm so glad everyone is so supportive. :)

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  3. That's great! So glad they were excited and supportive.

    We're not telling our parents until we have a baby. My husband's sister knows, and some friends, but that's it.

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  4. Whoa... That would have been something nice to know, eh? If for nothing else than to alleviate the guilt you have mentioned feeling. Super glad that things went over well though, and that you have the support you will undoubtedly need in the coming months!

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  5. Whoa indeed!
    Really glad that bit of perspective helped relieve some of your (unneeded, unjustified, but wholly understandable) guilt.
    So glad you have some family support now through this!
    xoxo

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  6. Go you! That's awesome that everyone was so supportive and encouraging. And that's interesting about your mom. It definitely puts things into a different perspective. (I felt this way when I learned a lot of my female family members had trouble conceiving.)

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  7. So glad they are supportive & everything went well!!

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  8. Coming out is so tough, I'm glad it went well.

    Funny isn't it, that you don't remember your mother telling you about her fertility issues, but it was obviously a big deal to her.

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  9. Yay for letting it out and getting so much support! What a shock to hear that from your mom, but it is so comforting to know you are not alone and feeling less guilty is so good.

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  10. So so so proud of you, and for them for supporting you! Hooray!

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