Monday, April 9, 2012

One Small Step

We had our Donor Egg consultation and I gotta say... we are pretty psyched.

The donor egg program at our clinic is a very small program that uses exclusively local anonymous donors. Because of this and due to the fact that this is not a large metropolitan area, they do not offer photos of the donors. Instead, our RE meets all potential donors personally and tries to make the best possible visual match after considering all of our stated preferences. He then presents the best match/es to us for approval. I continue to waffle about how this makes me feel... a little nervous at times and totally unconcerned at others. Prof actually prefers NOT to see a photo because he worries that the donor's face will stick in his memory where he doesn't want it. In the grand scheme of things the lack of photos is not a deal breaker, mostly because we truly trust our RE and I believe he will have our best interests in mind when selecting which donors to present to us.

When filling out the donor requirements form, we realized we're actually pretty flexible on the vast majority of physical options. First thoughts say the donor should look like me, but the more we thought about it we realized that even with my genetics in play, there is a surprisingly wide variety of physical traits that could express. As we considered the physical characteristics represented in each of our families, we realized that height, hair and eye color could be almost any combination and still fit in.

So, our only hard criteria are: college educated, proven fertility, light skinned Caucasian.

First step is a psych evaluation followed by a repeat of my HSG and some blood work that has expired. The whole process should take 3-6 months. The most amazing thing about it all is how peaceful I feel.

12 comments:

  1. I am so happy you are feeling peaceful about moving forward. Congrats and I look forward to reading your journey.

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  2. I'm so glad you feel peaceful about this. It sounds like a great option for you guys.

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  3. Can I just say that reading this got ME psyched??? Seriously - if there's ANYTHING I can do to help at all, you just let me know.

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  4. It's great that you guys are open to the possibilities of this experience!

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  5. I'll be excited to follow your progress, as we may need to go this route as well. So glad all went well.

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  6. Yay for feeling peaceful! It's about time you got to a place that allows you to feel that way. I'm so happy and hopeful for you!

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  7. I love how at peace (and excited) you sound in this post. I can't wait to read about the process. I'll be with you every step of the way!

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  8. I hope this goes well for you. I never thought about the photos before and how they could stick in your mind.

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  9. What a great way to feel. I am happy that moving forward in this direction feels good. You will be cycling in no time!

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  10. I really like how positive you are in this post! Sounds like things will be moving along great. I am looking forward to hearing all about it.

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  11. I am so glad that you feel at peaceful and calm as you move forward with DE - I'm so excited for you and prof!

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  12. This is so exciting!!! :)

    All the best!!

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